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Depression is a Killer

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Depression is a Killer

Depression is a KillerDepression is a Killer

Why???

Well, how many of you suffer from; Depression, Anxiety, Stress, or PTSD? How many can relate to this image?

How many of you struggle waking up and getting up every morning, or for that matter doing the “Daily Life Things”; cooking, cleaning, shopping, etc.?

How many of you have to deal with the Daily struggles that these Chronic Illnesses and pain brings you?

How about dealing with your “Family and Friends” who don’t understand what you are going through?

Well, let me tell you – I have to deal with it all the time, so you are NOT ALONE! 

When you come from a strong bloodline who don’t believe in; Therapy, Counselors, or seeking help – it makes it very difficult to express your feelings with others, do you agree?

After going into a severe deep depression my husband suggested I seek help and go to a Therapist / Counselor, I told him: “Me to a therapist/counselor, you are crazy!

What is my family/friends going to say when they find out, they are going to think I’m crazy!”

Unfortunately, we are so worried about what others think or say vs NOT GIVING A F*** and doing what’s right for us, right!!!

Well let me tell you we shouldn’t care what other people say or think at the end of the day – it’s our lives, right?

Well, I took my husbands advice and finally made it to the counselor and according to my therapist I was suffering from PTSD, may be caused by the passing of my father.  And again, my husband was right… I shouldn’t feel ashamed, embarrassed, afraid, or scared to seek help!  Because, we are stronger when we recognize that we are human, that we too need help and that it’s OK to seek help from a professional.  It shouldn’t matter what others think, say or do!

As a wife, a mother (of 4 beautiful children) and businesswoman, three years ago in (2010), I had a major breakdown (as mentioned above). 

I remember waking up one morning feeling so down; I had this horrible knot in my throat, this pain in my chest, I started to feel anxious – like I wanted to just; run, scream, cry, get away, run away, or for that matter “blow my brains out” because my head was just spinning with crazy thoughts, my brain would NOT shut off… The sweat, the fear it just felt so horrible, I felt hopeless, I felt fear and for the first time in my life, I felt useless and WEAK!

I felt like I had let all those who loved me down like they were going to see me as a weak person like they were no longer going to love me or see me the same way.  If you are like me who has at one point or another felt this way, PLEASE, PLEASE seek some help – It’s NEVER too late!

Tips on what helped me:

  • I searched for a Counselor – one who I felt comfortable talking to and expressing my feeling too! (You will know when you find the right one, you will feel that personal connection).
  • At night drink some nice Chamomile Tea it will help you relax and sleep
  • Use natural sleeping supplements such as Melatonin Sleep Now this is natural and will help you get a good night rest (Seek advice from your Doctor before taking any medication and or supplements)
  • Eating healthy meals especially in the morning will help you get the nutrients that your body needs.  As you may notice when you DON’T EAT, how does your body react? You start feeling jittery, anxious, dizzy, etc., Sign Up and Order Your Delicious products and start getting a discount. 
  • Exercise such as Yoga has been a great exercise for me, jogging, running, walking…Many studies have shown that Yoga can provide stress reduction and anxiety relief. It can also enhance your mood as well as the overall sense of well-being. (Find something that you like to do)
  • Music can be very therapeutic and soothing, calming and a distraction to the brain.  It’s believed that music can provide; stress relief, alleviate feelings of stress, anxiety, and tension.

When I start to feel down, anxious, depressed I tell my children that mommy needs some “me time to relax”, trust me at first my children would tell me: “Mommy, why don’t you love us, why do you always cry, why do you lock yourself in the room, why this, why that” and that made me feel even worse, it made me feel like I was a bad mother, or that I was neglecting my children.  But no, that is NOT the case, as parents, children, teenagers, adults, etc., we all have our own “Daily Struggles in Life”, this may be with School, Dating, Work, Peers, etc., so it’s OK, to have some “Me Time”!  So, go into a quiet room, turn on some soothing music, light an aromatherapy candle, dim the lights, do some meditating, yoga, breathing exercises, or just take a warm bath, or go for a walk, a jog find something that you like to do and JUST DO IT!

Remember PAIN IS TEMPORARY, but if you quit and don’t seek help it can BE LASTS FOREVER!

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Family and Depression how it affects you

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Family and Depression how it affects you

Family and Depression how it affects you… 

How many of you suffer from Depression?

I know I do and for me, it’s an everyday battle to overcome.  Some days I’m happy, cheery and other days I’m lost and feeling alone.

Many people tell me “How can you be depressed, your family is great, your husband does everything for you; he cooks, cleans, works, takes care of you the kids the house and your kids; they are wonderful, they are loving, caring, respectful, and we see them also doing everything you want them to do”…

Well, depression has NOTHING to do with me loving or caring for my family! It has to do with me; with who I am, who I think I’m not, who I wish I was, but everyone knows what I am… Or with the I wish; wish “I could have, should have, but I didn’t do?”.

Depression has to do with; unresolved issues, deep unresolved emotions, self-esteem, life’s struggles, loss of job, loss of a loved one,  physical, mental trauma, peer pressure, so many things can cause Depression and affect you and your family.

  • When you feel like your lost in your own “world”.
  • When you feel like something is missing.
  • When you’re just mentally, physically drained.
  • When your body hurts all over and nothing you do, is able to take the pain away.
  • Feeling the knot in your throat, the pain in your chest and no matter how hard you try, the pain won’t go away.
  • When you just want to be left alone and sleep, sleep to never wake up.
  • When your feeling sad and you don’t know why.
  • When you feel hopeless and worthless.
  • When you lost interest in things, you use to love to do.

Depression comes in so many ways, it is a serious depressive disorder and SHOULD NOT be ignored!  How many of you have noticed the above symptoms on a loved one? How many of you have families that when you talk about your feelings they’re the response is:

  • You’re crazy
  • It’s all in your head
  • Snap out of it
  • You’re just weak
  • Get over it
  • It will pass

I was one who was judged by my family (Mom, brothers, friends) and had it NOT been for the support of my husband and my kids and my Doctor, who as soon as they noticed the warning signs, they said: “Your pains are not from medical issues, your pains are symptoms of depression, go seek help! So, I did – I went and saw a Counselor, who till this day has helped me with my day-to-day struggles, with the loss of my father (who did of stage 4 Brain Cancer), who has helped me overcome certain barriers.

It’s been 1 year since my “meltdown” and I thank God every day for having the love and support of my husband and kids; otherwise, God only knows what would have happened with me.

Depression PoemIf you are like me who has been suffering from Depression, don’t worry there’s help!

And there’s hope! You can get through this!

  • Seek professional help
  • Find something you really enjoy doing., i.e, walking, jogging, reading, meditating, listening to music, etc… When you start feeling like your Depression is going to kick in, go and do that one positive thing that you really enjoy doing
  • Natural teas; chamomile tea is great to help relax
  • Yoga and Meditation – stretching helps get the blood flowing and helps remove some of the tension in your body

Don’t Give Up!

Life is to Short and Beautiful to Give up!

Family and Depression how it affects you and your family…remember your NOT ALONE – There’s Help! Don’t Wait! Don’t Feel Ashamed! Don’t Let this Illness Take Over You! You can Beat It!