Now, many of you know and have been following my Pain and Health journey and I know many of you may suffer from similar ailments.
So, I’ve decided to take my Health tips and journey to another level…Yes!
Because how many of you struggle with stress, depression, anxiety, health problems?
How many of you suffer from some or all of these same problems due to work, family, business, or daily struggles?
My little secret:
I suffer from all of the above as well as other ailments and chronic diseases, but one thing that has truly HELPED ME…Going back to the “BASICS”
1. I changed the way I ate.
2. Lost the excess weight.
3. Went back to exercising (light).
4. Started meditating and doing yoga.
5. I threw away all my medications and exchanged them for vitamins.
Healthy eating, and NOT skipping meals (shakes and vitamins from @herbalife as well as probiotics, and fish oil, and oregano and grape seed oil and other organic items…*check with your Dr)
6. Resting, yes! Actually sleeping, using melatonin, sleep now from @thrive4wellness_herbalife and chamomile or cinnamon tea…
7. More importantly, AVOID STRESS, STRESS IS A “KILLER”…yes, it will bring you to your “knees and break you”!…
8. Know your “triggers” and try to AVOID them so you can PREVENT flare-ups!
9. Don’t WORK to HARD, know your limits and LEARN to LISTEN to your BODY!.
10. Remember that no matter what you do, you will have ups and downs and it’s how you learn to handle them and cope with them that matters!….
I want to invite you to read my previousBlog Post and to share my story and what I struggle with, but I don’t let these struggles take away my SHINE! So, let’s #BossUpandRise and Join Me on this Healthy and Fitness Journey today!
So whether it be with my products or those of your own it DOESN’T MATTER, what matters is that you get your HEALTH and LIFE back on track, so that you can continue to do what you LOVE!
As the holidays get closer, the bills pile up, the cost of living goes up and the problems don’t go away and now the year end comes to an end, so we may feel like #givingup – right? WRONG!
Like many of you, I have problems, I have struggles, I cry, I lock myself in the room and cry my self to sleep, I ask myself time and time again “Why Me, Why Me” and just can’t find a way out. I feel that things just keep coming my way and more things keep thrown my way, more problems arise, more issues, etc… I sometimes say to myself “Why do I even try, Why do I continue, Why even do it, Why, Why, Why”…Well, I’ll tell you why! Because, life is beautiful, life is great, life may have its ups and downs, life may throw things at us that we don’t like, but guess what? Not many, have the luxury of being alive! There’s so may men, woman and children that wish they had one more day to go through the daily life struggles that we complain about everyday!
I know my father would have wished to be here one more day and would have preferred dealing with the daily struggles, drama, problems, so as long as he was able to see his grandkids alive, see his children get married, go camping, fishing, etc…So, STOP COMPLAING and STOP saying YOU, YES YOU! That you want to GIVE UP!
1. Every problem has a solution
2. There’s a solution to every problem
3. Life is Great
4. Life is Beautiful
5. Life is Precious
6. No problem to big
7. As long as we have life, there’s HOPE
8. Have FAITH
9. Love Yourself
10. Love Life
NEVER GIVE UP, NO MATTER WHAT LIFE THROWS YOUR WAY!
God does things for a Reason, you may not know the reason NOW, but TRUST ME – you will see it – sooner or later…So DON’T GIVE UP!
Have you had a Traumatic event – either recently or in the past? Death of family member, friend, teacher, pet, lover, divorce, physical pain or injury, illness, war, natural disaster, terrorism, moving, parental abandonment, witness death, rape, domestic abuse, prison, or other
Have you just dealt with it, or received help?
Or are you like many who just “sweeps it under the rug” with the hopes that it will just go away, or that it will get better?
I myself have had many events and never in my dreams did I think I would ever need help. I know many of you reading this will agree that you or someone you know have at one point-or-another have suffered, experienced one of the above.
As state above I’ve had many events, but I will start with the most “recent” one(s) just to give you an idea of what I’ve gone through and what it took to overcome some of these problems and what I had to do.
The most recent one started in 2009, I was feeling so sick that I kept going in/out of the hospital and to the doctors and the doctors just kept telling me it was nothing, just stomach flu, constipation, acid reflux, etc and they would send me back home with medication, drink lots of fluids, etc. A few months went by I was feeling the same when all of the sudden I felt like my stomach was just going to burst, I was rushed to the hospital where I was told that it was my gallbladder 🙂 and that it needed to be removed. I was so scared, unprepared especially because I had my little one who at the time was only 6 and was just crying and crying making it harder for me to deal with this.
Well, as I was getting my gown on, getting ready for the pre-op and having some tests done and my kids and hubby sitting there waiting for me to go into surgery then all of the sudden minutes later the doctors come in and tell me “sorry ma’am, but we can’t do the surgery because it’s not your gallbladder, it’s your pregnancy”, My what??!!! Yes, you are pregnant and that is why you are having these pains. It left me baffled of course because we thought we were done having babies and the thought of having to start all over with diapers, sleepless nights, the crying the feeding, etc.. I couldn’t believe that this was happening, but couldn’t believe that this baby was causing me so much pain! I cried and cried I didn’t know if it was of happiness, scared, afraid, shocked, it was just too much for me to bare – especially because of all the issues I had with my other babies. So, I put on my big girl panties and said to my husband “we can do this, if this is what God wants, then we will find a way to get through it!”. So, 3 months into the pregnancy I started to feel even worse, the pain, headaches, I couldn’t’ keep anything in, I was in/out of the hospital and all the doctors could say is “Ma’m please prepare yourself, your baby might not make it!”. This went on for 5 whole months – yes!, 5 whole month’s going into the clinic to get my fluids until it came a day where they could no longer find my veins and they had to put in a shunt and of course that didn’t go well, it was so painful and discomforting that they had no choice but to remove it. To make matters worse I was also going on a 1 month and 1/2 half of no sleep (sleep deprivation), I was going crazy, then my body was itching all the time, it felt like it was burning inside, I couldn’t handle this pregnancy to the point I felt I was going to literally go crazy. I knew this was NOT NORMAL, so my husband and I pressured the doctors to please run some more testing, so they did and found out that I had a case of severe Cholestasisapparently my case was one of the severe ones because none of the medication or treatments that they had for this was working for me and since I was pregnant and the pregnancy was a risky pregnancy they couldn’t remove my gallbladder which is one of the procedures that they could do! So yeah, they say 1 out of 1,000 pregnanciessuffer from severe cholestasis So, yeah I was a lucky one 🙂 So, it got to the point where my husband could no longer care for me, run a business, care for the kids and handle the day-to-day issues, so he talk to my doctor and had me checked into the hospital until I gave birth. I was so mad, hurt, felt deserted, isolated, angry, etc., at the time “I hated my husband”, I couldn’t believe that he was doing this to me, I felt like he no longer loved me, I felt like this baby was tearing my family apart. I remember trying to sneak out of the hospital, I wanted to run away, I wanted this baby out! Words can’t describe how miserable I was and how much I hated myself for feeling like this – especially knowing I was going to have a Baby Girl, the little girl I always wanted. Well, they even made me a “Medication Cocktail”(don’t try this at home, only under the care of your treating doctor) trying to get me to sleep and get some rest especially because I was getting closer and closer to giving birth, so I needed my medication. Well, thank God everything worked out fine, I had my baby girl, but then I had to deal with the fact that she was a premature baby and that they had to leave her in the hospital until she could eat on her own, that was devastating for me because I felt like if only “I could have kept my big girl panties on and held on to this pregnancy full term, instead of crying and begging for them to take her out, my baby could have come home with us”, I felt useless, I felt like part of me was staying in that hospital, like I could not breathe, sleep, eat but I also made my little ones feel worse, torn apart, I felt like I was being selfish! But, thank God after 3 weeks she was finally home with us, but I never dealt with that Trauma, we never talked about it at home, we never sat down to find out how this whole episode made my children feel, or how my husband felt, we just “swept it under the rug”...
part two soon to come, this is NOT the end of this horrific nightmare – stay tuned!
The beauty of life is learning to enjoy each and every moment that we are on this earth. More importantly, enjoying each and every moment you have with your family and friends.
We all deal with the day – to – day daily life struggles always feeling rushed, kids sports, work, bills, problems, but we all need to take a moment and GET AWAY! A moment to enjoy life and the beauties mother nature has for us.
Many think that Getaways are expensive, but that’s NOT the case, at least NOT for me. Why, How?
Well, I take advantage of my outings – for example when we have to take our kids to their sporting events, instead of sitting and waiting we take advantage of our day/weekend out and while the kids are prepping for their sport, we go out and explore and learn about the new cities, counties, states and/or countries that we may be in.
So, how do I do it? Well, we travel a lot with our 13-year-old son who’s an amateur boxer, we have to take him to his boxing events that sometimes are local, or out of town. These events are all day events, meaning that we have to arrive very early and leave very late :). Example: This past month my son was scheduled to fight in Sonoma and while he went through the routine of; Weigh-ins, seeing the Doctor and waiting to see if his opponent showed up from the Central Valley, my husband, daughter and I decided to explore the beauties of Sonoma County (sometimes our other children opt out on participating, they rather wait and mingle with their friends, which is perfectly OK). So, we had a couple of choices, we could either sit and wait for hours till the Boxing Showtime started, or we could go explore beautiful Sonoma.
So, we decided to go and explore #Sonoma AND it was all FREE, yes FREE!
Take advantage and find FREE SPOTS; Beach is Free, Lighthouse tour was Free, Walk along the Beach was Free, the View was Free 🙂 We always pack lunch, drinks, snacks, so we don’t have to spend a fortune on eating out!
We started to drive and decided to jump onto HWY 1 and followed it all the way through and this is where it took us – to the end of the Pacific Coast, isn’t it breathtaking???
We went and visited Bodega Bay and stopped by some of the other Sonoma County Beaches and enjoyed our walks in some of the most beautiful beaches. We decided to take a walk and enjoy the warm and soft sand while enjoying every moment watching and hearing the sound of the waves. We sat for a while relaxing and enjoying the fresh, and cool ocean breeze and reminiscing with our daughter our visits to Santa Cruz, Petaluma, New York, Las Vegas, etc…mean while my husband relaxed and napped in the beautiful sandy beach!
Words can’t describe the beautiful moments we spent on those beautiful beaches and seeing the blue water and sunshine and nothing around just the beautiful Pacific Coast waters.
Live, Love, Laugh Live Every Moment as if it was your Last
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I learned so much since the closure of my Corporate Business, Life taught me so much after the Economy Crash, God gave me another opportunity after my multiple accidents and here I am enjoying life and it’s beauties with my little family while doing what I love!
Well, how many of you suffer from; Depression, Anxiety, Stress, or PTSD? How many can relate to this image?
How many of you struggle waking up and getting up every morning, or for that matter doing the “Daily Life Things”; cooking, cleaning, shopping, etc.?
How many of you have to deal with the Daily struggles that these Chronic Illnesses and pain brings you?
How about dealing with your “Family and Friends” who don’t understand what you are going through?
Well, let me tell you – I have to deal with it all the time, so you are NOT ALONE!
When you come from a strong bloodline who don’t believe in; Therapy, Counselors, or seeking help – it makes it very difficult to express your feelings with others, do you agree?
After going into a severe deep depression my husband suggested I seek help and go to a Therapist / Counselor, I told him: “Me to a therapist/counselor, you are crazy!
What is my family/friends going to say when they find out, they are going to think I’m crazy!”
Unfortunately, we are so worried about what others think or say vs NOT GIVING A F*** and doing what’s right for us, right!!!
Well let me tell you we shouldn’t care what other people say or think at the end of the day – it’s our lives, right?
Well, I took my husbands advice and finally made it to the counselor and according to my therapist I was suffering from PTSD, may be caused by the passing of my father. And again, my husband was right… I shouldn’t feel ashamed, embarrassed, afraid, or scared to seek help! Because, we are stronger when we recognize that we are human, that we too need help and that it’s OK to seek help from a professional. It shouldn’t matter what others think, say or do!
As a wife, a mother (of 4 beautiful children) and businesswoman, three years ago in (2010), I had a major breakdown (as mentioned above).
I remember waking up one morning feeling so down; I had this horrible knot in my throat, this pain in my chest, I started to feel anxious – like I wanted to just; run, scream, cry, get away, run away, or for that matter “blow my brains out” because my head was just spinning with crazy thoughts, my brain would NOT shut off… The sweat, the fear it just felt so horrible, I felt hopeless, I felt fear and for the first time in my life, I felt useless and WEAK!
I felt like I had let all those who loved me down like they were going to see me as a weak person like they were no longer going to love me or see me the same way. If you are like me who has at one point or another felt this way, PLEASE, PLEASE seek some help – It’s NEVER too late!
Tips on what helped me:
I searched for a Counselor – one who I felt comfortable talking to and expressing my feeling too! (You will know when you find the right one, you will feel that personal connection).
At night drink some nice Chamomile Tea it will help you relax and sleep
Use natural sleeping supplements such as MelatoninSleep Now this is natural and will help you get a good night rest (Seek advice from your Doctor before taking any medication and or supplements)
Eating healthy meals especially in the morning will help you get the nutrients that your body needs. As you may notice when you DON’T EAT, how does your body react? You start feeling jittery, anxious, dizzy, etc., Sign Up and Order Your Delicious products and start getting a discount.
Exercise such as Yoga has been a great exercise for me, jogging, running, walking…Many studies have shown that Yoga can provide stress reduction and anxiety relief. It can also enhance your mood as well as the overall sense of well-being. (Find something that you like to do)
Music can be very therapeutic and soothing, calming and a distraction to the brain. It’s believed that music can provide; stress relief, alleviate feelings of stress, anxiety, and tension.
When I start to feel down, anxious, depressed I tell my children that mommy needs some “me time to relax”, trust me at first my children would tell me: “Mommy, why don’t you love us, why do you always cry, why do you lock yourself in the room, why this, why that” and that made me feel even worse, it made me feel like I was a bad mother, or that I was neglecting my children. But no, that is NOT the case, as parents, children, teenagers, adults, etc., we all have our own “Daily Struggles in Life”, this may be with School, Dating, Work, Peers, etc., so it’s OK, to have some “Me Time”! So, go into a quiet room, turn on some soothing music, light an aromatherapy candle, dim the lights, do some meditating, yoga, breathing exercises, or just take a warm bath, or go for a walk, a jog find something that you like to do and JUST DO IT!
Remember PAIN IS TEMPORARY, but if you quit and don’t seek help it can BE LASTS FOREVER!
I know I do and for me, it’s an everyday battle to overcome. Some days I’m happy, cheery and other days I’m lost and feeling alone.
Many people tell me “How can you be depressed, your family is great, your husband does everything for you; he cooks, cleans, works, takes care of you the kids the house and your kids; they are wonderful, they are loving, caring, respectful, and we see them also doing everything you want them to do”…
Well, depression has NOTHING to do with me loving or caring for my family! It has to do with me; with who I am, who I think I’m not, who I wish I was, but everyone knows what I am… Or with the I wish; wish “I could have, should have, but I didn’t do?”.
Depression has to do with; unresolved issues, deep unresolved emotions, self-esteem, life’s struggles, loss of job, loss of a loved one, physical, mental trauma, peer pressure, so many things can cause Depression and affect you and your family.
When you feel like your lost in your own “world”.
When you feel like something is missing.
When you’re just mentally, physically drained.
When your body hurts all over and nothing you do, is able to take the pain away.
Feeling the knot in your throat, the pain in your chest and no matter how hard you try, the pain won’t go away.
When you just want to be left alone and sleep, sleep to never wake up.
When your feeling sad and you don’t know why.
When you feel hopeless and worthless.
When you lost interest in things, you use to love to do.
Depression comes in so many ways, it is a serious depressive disorder and SHOULD NOT be ignored! How many of you have noticed the above symptoms on a loved one? How many of you have families that when you talk about your feelings they’re the response is:
It’s all in your head
Snap out of it
You’re just weak
Get over it
It will pass
I was one who was judged by my family (Mom, brothers, friends) and had it NOT been for the support of my husband and my kids and my Doctor, who as soon as they noticed the warning signs, they said: “Your pains are not from medical issues, your pains are symptoms of depression, go seek help! So, I did – I went and saw a Counselor, who till this day has helped me with my day-to-day struggles, with the loss of my father (who did of stage 4 Brain Cancer), who has helped me overcome certain barriers.
It’s been 1 year since my “meltdown” and I thank God every day for having the love and support of my husband and kids; otherwise, God only knows what would have happened with me.
If you are like me who has been suffering from Depression, don’t worry there’s help!
And there’s hope! You can get through this!
Seek professional help
Find something you really enjoy doing., i.e, walking, jogging, reading, meditating, listening to music, etc… When you start feeling like your Depression is going to kick in, go and do that one positive thing that you really enjoy doing
Natural teas; chamomile tea is great to help relax
Yoga and Meditation – stretching helps get the blood flowing and helps remove some of the tension in your body
Don’t Give Up!
Life is to Short and Beautiful to Give up!
Family and Depression how it affects you and your family…remember your NOT ALONE – There’s Help! Don’t Wait! Don’t Feel Ashamed! Don’t Let this Illness Take Over You! You can Beat It!