Be Fucking Real – Stop Trying to Change Yourself

Be fucking real and Stop trying to change yourself, is this something you hear all the time? “You need to change”. Yet, others say…“Stop Trying to Change Yourself!”. So who the heck do you listen to, right?

So while change is good, sometimes change can be very scary, and sometimes it’s so damn hard to change especially when we are surrounded by negative, toxic, and people who are just ready to BASH YOU no matter what! However, we are also sometimes forced into change! Although change can be scary, a change can be for the best or the worst.

Now, of course, it all depends on the type of change we want to make or have in our lives to make our lives better, or worst…

As an entrepreneur, I had to make changes to both my life and business. As a wife and mom, I also had to make changes as the world evolved in order to help myself, my family, and my business. And as we know life can change quickly and drastically, therefore, we also have to change with it, and be prepared for all the changes, right?

However, having to change to portray someone I’m NOT – well that’s something I’m NOT willing to do, are you?!…

With the new online world, many creators and business coaches will tell you – “you have to change, you have to spend, you have to do this and that if you want to be successful” 🙄🤔…

At first, when I was pivoting into the online space – I was like OMG!!! I have to change my looks; the way I talk, the way I show up online, etc…And boy was I wrong!

You see, those that follow you, know you, and like what you have to offer DON’T CARE about your looks!

So, do you know who follows you, who’s your “tribe”?

People will follow you regardless of how you look, how you talk, the glam, the sparkle, etc…

If they are already following for who you are, and how you look they will also follow you because of who you are; what you provide, or because something resonates with them, or they feel you can help them in any way, shape, or form – that SIMPLE!

So really – “Be fucking real and Stop trying to change yourself for anyone except yourself!” At the end of the day, you are the one who’s important and you don’t have to CHANGE FOR NO ONE!

How I changed and why…

Here’s a personal change I had to make in 2010. I had to close my Corporate Business due to the ongoing economic crisis of 2008 and because I was dealing with a bad pregnancy, but also the recent diagnosis of my father. In 2010 my princess was born, but also my father passed away from stage 4 glioblastoma brain cancer. So the drastic change although a forceful change was a change for the best!

I was forced to take some time off because I ended up with severe depression, anxiety, and PTSD. This time off allowed me to reanalyze my skills; my abilities, my life, and to see what and if I could continue on this Entrepreneurship path.

Tips for you… Sign up for the upcoming Vision Board Workshop

• Be honest with yourself
• Analyze your self; skills & abilities
• Always pay attention to your “inner voice”
• Stop trying to be like everyone else
• Selfcare – know your triggers
• Stay positive and motivated
• Limit your social media time
• Set your goals and don’t derail, or throw the towel
• Failing is part of the process
• Establish your boundaries both in business and life

The takeaway is to BE FUCKING REAL WITH YOURSELF!

You are your biggest cheerleader, but also your worst critique!